[[ Free Textbooks ]] Love is One of the ChoicesAuthor Norma Klein – Cekhargaproduk.co

WHEN YOU RE NEITHER A GIRL NOR A WOMANMaggie And Caroline Are Both Seniors In High School And Suddenly Everything That Seemed Simple Has Become Complicated Thinking About Sex, Wondering About College, Planning For Careers There Are So Many ChoicesMaggie Is Brilliant And Very Self Assured She Considers Herself A Feminist Until She Meets Todd Lamport Who Challenges Everything She S Ever Believed In And Draws Her Into A Special Love Affair Suddenly Independence Doesn T Seem The Only Way Of LifeCaroline Has Never Thought Much Of Herself She S Shy, Withdrawn And Secretly In Love With Her Chemistry Teacher, Justin Prager When He Unexpectedly Returns Her Feelings, She Is Thrown Into Emotional TurmoilNorma Klein S Wonderful Novel Explores The Lives Of These Very Different Women And Proves That No Matter What We Think We Want From Life, Love Is Always One Of The Choices

10 thoughts on “Love is One of the Choices

  1. says:

    my mother was constantly trying her best to protect me from naughty things In second grade she wouldn t let me see Who Framed Roger Rabbit, because Jessica Rabbit was too sexy I was supposed to only read kids books or books appropriate for my age, but if it was a classic it was ok And if you have ever read any of the classicsAnyhow, sometime in Junior High I was milling around the young adult adult section of the Mitchell Park Library in Palo Alto, I forget which section, and I found this book.I would say depending on your view it s for mature readers, but different people can handle different things It deals frankly with sex, suicide, and learning to make choices about ones life The main characters are two friends who are 18 and about to graduate high school It s an excellent book and I recently bought a copy that had been pulled from a Library s collection and is a first edition from ABEbooks.com which is an awesome resource for hard to find books And I am enjoying it just as much as I did when I first read it Of course I can relate to the issues in the book a quick blurb from the 1987 edition Senior year in high school brings emotional turmoil, sexual awakening, and some painful decisions for Maggie and Caroline one an ardent feminist and the other a shy dreamer in a fantasy world It is also a banned book Love is one of the Choices, by Norma Klein Removed from Evergreen SchoolDistrict, Vancouver, Washington, 1983.it s dated having been written in 1978 I doubt many young women today when thinking of birth control turn to a diaphragm or that traditional Freudian psychologist are common, and when was the last time it was common for pornography to be shown in movie theaters Aside from the things that obvious date the novel, it is excellent and the threads about coming of age that flow through this book can still touch ages to come Go read it Have fun, and support banned books

  2. says:

    Like Judy Blume, but better I was obsessed with Norma Klein in middle school and when I heard she had died I was devastated.

  3. says:

    This is probably the worst of Norma Klein s books I feel like it goes backwards in terms of its stance on female sexual empowerment and such There are two protagonists who are navigating through first time sex and relationships I think some of the ways in which she explores women intersecting at various points of their lives is a little tedious Still, nobody can compare to Klein as far as unflinching sexuality goes And oh yeah, these high school girls get their orgasm ON, which you know, is really nice.

  4. says:

    This book This book.I ve had my fair share of cough emotional entanglements While I never had an affair with a teacher, b god I had the crush that wouldn t die Because I was a bookworm with very few girlfriends my own age, I ate up All The Novels on the subject in an attempt to understand what was going on The thing about mostly All The Novels was that I kept getting hit upside the head with tropes If it didn t end very badly for the girl, then she immediately formed an attachment to a boy her own age, with little examination as to why an older man would appeal to her in the first place Daddy issues The classic safe first crush I always came away confused because none of it resonated I formed attachments to boys my own age They never lasted for some reason I wasn t looking for a daddy, and my first crush was on a neighborhood boy And none of the voices felt at all authentic until Norma Klein s.Klein s examination of teenage sexuality cleansed my palate after years of message novels Finally, the notion of a young woman choosing sex With a partner she liked, even I had resented for years the idea that if I lost my virginity in high school, I d be going along to get along, or possibly raped outright Where was the adolescent girl s sexual agency Society had long since accepted that of adolescent boys how were girls different The answer germinating inside me was they re not And Klein knew it, too Revolutionary for a writer of YA well prior to the Twilight explosion She treated her young adult protagonists as young adults, not overly tall children Their decisions had consequences, but they were allowed to face those consequences instead of running for the shelter of the nearest sympathetic authority figure.I respected Maggie and Caroline I thought Caroline was a bit of an idiot for taking up with a married man, but I admired her for owning her role in the relationship Society would not have blamed her had she retreated to a position of little girl lost She didn t She claimed her ground, the ground I fought for as a baby feminist the right to make her own damn mistakes She was, in other words, allowed to grow up, so that her childhood did not extend into her twenties as childhood does now Klein, through Caroline, gave me hope that reality was nuanced than a message novel Note please that I also remember Caroline as being a stronger, healthier protagonist than most of the girls of post Twilight YA Despite her love interest s dual status as married and her teacher , I d argue that he was still better than a lot of the bad boy characters in paranormals now The gender dynamic in general was healthier than the one Generation Y beyond has internalised Was I once a girl in unrequited love with an inappropriate man Yes, but he never treated me half as shabbily as what these bad boys get away with I learned from my experience that a good man would show me respect regardless of my sexual availability, and that I couldn t drive him away by being myself That s rare in fiction nowadays, and yet that rarity is perfectly acceptable to the adults who are writing it, unwittingly holding it up as the ideal for the target audience I don t trust the ideal, and I seriously wonder what s going on inside those authors heads What taught them, I wonder, the values they have written Addendum May 2011 It s a real comedown to reread something ten years after I first read it, especially now that I understand of it I ordered Love Is One of the Choices because it was so memorable to me at sixteen Guessing I may have been younger and curious But it s been at least ten years I think that was because I already had a penchant for equal relationships between theoretically unequal people, and I probably owe you words on Gor and queering feministing the text Is feministing a word and not just a website But I wasn t as keenly aware of the difference between womanhood then and womanhood now Then is the 1970s, when girls used diaphragms and IUDs, the halcyon days of second wave feminism I suppose when I first read this book, I was still so slavishly devoted to the second wave writers that I couldn t fathom any other sort of feminism making sense to me Oh, I still applaud Klein s ability to write a nuanced story about real people I don t think anyone s made of cardboard, necessarily, not on purpose I think Maggie s written as an extreme for a reason, and Klein does provide discussion of why Maggie is the way she is At the same time, knowing what happened to women like Maggie as they embraced the second wave, I have a little hope for Caroline, who isn t nearly as rigid in her worldview Caroline is softer, able to move with her circumstances She loves like I love She thinks of Justin the way I sometimes think of Darling, that I m the envy of every woman in the room and how could they not be falling all over him Caroline is finding her own wave She really isn t as dogmatic as Maggie, and several characters call Maggie out on this in the course of the novel That they re all men sits badly with me at the same time, I wonder if this is authorial intent at work or just coincidence Are we meant to wonder about Justin and Todd s motivations Absolutely nothing is clear in the text I love Klein for that She doesn t slam us with moral absolutes Maybe the decade was forgiving in that respect Maybe she just wasn t interested in Aesops.Did I, at the time, identify better with childfree, driven Maggie Or did I find myself better reflected in Caroline I do like Caroline better now, even if I think she s a bit na ve was originally the adjective That makes me as dogmatic as Maggie, though Caroline is Caroline She s straight, she s monogamous, and having married her lover, she is ready to experience motherhood I almost see her as a proto Eve Casson minus the carefree nature Caroline is intense than Maggie in certain ways She loves jealously, would be devastated if Justin ever attempted to open their marriage as he and first wife Ariella did She loves his six year old son as if he were her own Perhaps she ll ease up with time When I was eighteen, I was pretty intense myself Living that way takes its toll I find it easier now to roll with life, take it as it comes, and accept that to everything there is a season Some wisdom ages very well Could be in ten years the four main characters will have formed a polyamorous quad, an OT4 in fannish terms One true foursome Especially in the final two chapters, we see how well each woman suits each man and vice versa the opening of their relationships just to these trusted friends is plausible than the way Ariella wanted, where she and Justin could have anyone they liked Or, and this is equally as plausible given the text, Caroline will have sunk so low in Maggie s estimation that any friendship they once shared will have faded into a childhood fancy Maggie is already dismissing Caroline in a way that would shock me if I were Caroline Maggie s dogma may get run over by her karma as she adopts and internalizes masculine attributes, dismissing femininity as lesser not at all a feminist attitude Not any, anyhow This is how we got the workaholics, the career life balance issues, Friedan s own later writings which, at eighteen, read like Stephen King, but scarier When equality really means I m a man in a woman suit , is it really equality Especially if the woman in a woman suit remains devalued as a result I wouldn t have thought to ask those questions during my first reading of this book I don t want children I could take or leave a career, so long as the only person upon whom I depend financially is myself If some of my traits coincide with those now found in men, fine, but it s not on purpose and it s not what I want Maggie is a letdown in that respect Unwilling to entertain notions that allow for emotional attachment, she s almost certainly the character headed for a midlife crisis We need to bend so we don t break Caroline bends She looks weaker compared to Maggie actually, she s strong the way a willow is strong, able to blow in the wind and not snap Not brittle at all She ll grow into understanding the world What she knows at an early age will serve her far better.

  5. says:

    These amazing books are kind of like 70s feminist trash Every single Norma Klein protagonist lives on the UWS, has jazz musicians on grass for parents, and is sleeping with multiple 50 yo men, usually their teachers or their best friend s dads, and always have multiple vaginal orgasms This one is the eponymous Klein.

  6. says:

    I am really beginning to wonder how people who LOVED all of Klein s work would feel upon a reread I 100% get the appeal and think there is some real great stuff in here that was groundbreaking at the time, but I also feel like there s a heck of a lot to cringe about and to really dig into The adults are the real messes in these books, which feels like a commentary on how teens PERCEIVE adults, but also, they re real messes besides.Maggie and Carrie were some interesting best friends, and this book has no ending.

  7. says:

    I read about Norma Klein a few years ago on Jezebel She is a YA novelist in the same vein as Judy Blume but is no where near as well known After finally having read one of her books, I m not sure why this is the case.This book is pretty timeless you could easily adapt it to a film and market it to young ladies It tackles major issues in an honest, smart way that not a lot of books do It doesn t just talk about sex, it talks about sex in conjunction with your values and expectations and it maybe not quite fitting in with either It talks about abortion without it being the whole story It s self sacrifice vs independence in a thoughtful way that s really refreshing in a world where Twilight is the gold standard for the kids The one thing Love has in common with the Twilight saga is that they both venture beyond the point where the protagonists get married or settled or whatever and examines what happens after.

  8. says:

    I loved this book as a teenager Norma Klein is amazing.

  9. says:

    I read this book when I was about fourteen or fifteen, and I remember how shocked I was to see sex in a teen romance Normally first love books are so innocent, or the ones I read were I recently purchased a hard copy of the book because I loved Norma Klein s work when I was a teenager, and I lost most of them sometime while moving It s good, but not as good as I remember Maybe I m jaded now being an adult, and an erotic romance author There are funny moments view spoiler When Maggie and Todd have sex for the first time, she asks him if he s all the way in hide spoiler

  10. says:

    Woah I was blown away by this book Despite being written in the late 70s, it s frank discussions of sex, life choices and the bridge to adulthood are presented here in a way I don t see in today s YA.